"Why Do We Rise When Others Want Us Down?"

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So this is the mind of the exotic prenuer where defining your purpose is wearing it with pride. Like today's topics is all about. The people, you ever been around people that only call you when they want to complain and be, negative, but don't want to be, don't want to bring no joy or no peace or no positivity to your life? Those are the motherfuckers that you really is, not for you, but they're not working with you. They actually work against you. Now, that doesn't mean, let me explain what I mean. yeah think about it like this. Okay, I'll tell you a story that was happening in my life. Alright you I talk about it a lot because it's the most, traumatic thing that ever happened to me as a whole. Because I done had setbacks, but I've never had a complete wipe out and didn't have to rebuild, in a space where they're emotionally and psychologically thrown. And this was when my place was broken into, my house was broken into, my studio was broken into, and they stole everything. And I have to literally start over. And it was right at a time when I was in my highest point of positivity, meaning I have just personally earned and bought, my latest, quality mics in. I was ready to do a full production of studio and production company for the public. And then the week I was going to start the advertisement, the day before everything got stole. So I had to start over and that was devastating. So during that time of trials and tribulations, a lot of times, most of us who been successful or earned don't talk about do we suffer in silence? Have you ever done that? Have you ever just held it and just bit it and just and then you may have cried, you walked through the motions and then you start processing, then you get back to it. There is a point where that you have to share it. You have to share their, the moment they experience like what I don't talk about you because it's therapeutic. You have to work or talk about your emotional state for that moment. But then once you understand the root of where the emotional state come from, now you're able to process it and you go through the phases of grief or despair. And that doesn't mean death. Per se, as in a person, but the five stages of grief and despair are organic when you have something traumatic happened in your life. For me, it was the dramatic break in, right? After spending, last four years rebuilding it to something, so I had to start it all over. So that's traumatic. It could be a family member's death. It could be a loved one's death. But then there's a point where that, while you're in that moment or in that phase, and you shared this information, you didn't ask for a pity party. You shared information because you had to basically get it out. So let's say You share it with a best friend, and they volunteer and say while you're in your time of despair, Here, come chill at me, find a place of refuge, and that's a good thing, right? It's a good thing, because now people are showing you, at least the ones, who's willing to fuck with you and who not. Now, when things are starting going well, huh, this is where, things are going well. Now. They're feeling, now they're getting funny. Now they're starting to act rude and messy with you. Now they're acting like, They're not fucking with you. Because Now they're feeling, now they're acting like, Hey, you're doing better again. You're doing better and I don't like that. So now they start being petty and they start saying, Hey, I need you to start paying rent since you're here so long. they start making it seem like you're in their way because. they want you gone. Cause why you now doing better and you're now making it better. And now you showed your level of resilience when at one point they liked the fact that you was dependent on them. When you was crying on their shoulders, when you was sitting here looking all sloth, when you didn't know if you can see that day because that man broke your heart so bad and you didn't find the resilience to the self respect To find a way Hey, listen, I'm a bad bitch So I can get my shit together Or, I'm a real nigga. I go out and handle my business Why ain't gotta we worried about it or in my case. Hey, I still got the knowledge in my mind. I just lost the tools that I need to use. So I need to just go ahead and get back to my grind. You feel what I'm saying? Because those are the people that's what you're made of. But the people that are around you wasn't made of that stuff. They didn't want, they was looking for a reason. To sit there and look while you look and laugh while you're down because behind the scenes they was laughing at you behind the scenes They were talking about you said that's what that bitch get why she thought she was so cute She thought she was so that bad. That's what that nigga get. He was so smart. That's what he get sometimes you people are literally looking on your Downfall when you fall not knowing what's on the inside That's going to build you back up and turn you all the way up instead of down See, I got it There's a saying from the mind of the executive authority that says dude If you can't call me when your good times don't bother me You understand what I'm saying? It's the reverse engineering, a positive reinforcement and progressive opportunities, right? Because a lot of us love drama. We love to see drama. We love to move to a drama because we watch drama shows. We watch it on social media. We watch it on TV. But when we have drama in our life, All of a sudden the world is falling down and now we need somebody to come save us. Majority of the time ain't nobody coming to save us unless you got a big wee or a very pretty face. The rest of us ain't got nobody, for the most part. We got maybe a ones or twos that may come around you. Now here's the thing when you can decipher the winners from the losers. The winners, who come in your space and You're doing, you're in your point of despair and as you're basically getting it out your system because you're going through the phases of grief, despair and, discontentment, right? You will come to the things of realization. Do you accept it? Do you emotionally? Compartmentalize it because now you understand why you did it. You understand if you got caught slipping or just with the signs or you saw, recognize the red flags. Now, at that point, that doesn't give you a path to now take it out on the next people. It just makes you, it gives you the lesson behind of what to be aware of when it's about to be some bullshit based off of your choices. Some shit is uncontrollable, but other things are very controllable, or very avoidable if you want to keep dating the hustling street people, that's I'm going to pick up where I left off. Okay, so when you're dating, for example, when you're dating someone that is in the streets, like a stripper or hustlers, then understand that there's nothing wrong with them. It's just the repercussions that comes with it is cool. They're the Happy three or now, but it's going to be sad later, situation. Why? Because that's the way it's set up to be. so from the mind of this entrepreneur, after living through several, decades of ups and downs, trials and tribulations in the underground world, as an operator in the game, as a media marketer in the game, but also as a psychologist in this game in dark psychology, if you will, because of the fact of how we solicit our customers is by the ideal of a person trying to have, intercourse or personal relations with you versus the reality of having intercourse and personal relations with you, you start seeing patterns You start learning that the males in this game will eventually go to jail or die and that is their third thing. So of course they're going to spoil the women that they're dating on extremely high level because they already know what they know what they signed up for. By the time they hit 20 years old, they know that, Hey, this is a dirty Cutlass heartthroat game. when you're on your path to greatness and you're starting to have your moments of success, you start forgetting the fact that this is a short live. This is a short trip. It's like getting on a roller coaster. When you're expecting it to last long, the thrill, and then it's already over with, that's the game. Cause you have an immediate gratification. Now, because of that, you start developing relationships and perceived friendships with people that you think are really fucking with you, but they're really your opps. So I'm going to give you some scenario math. Now I know a lot of people don't like math, but you got to understand that math is God. Math is science. Math is what gives you the predictability for your spirituality. You feel what I'm saying? It's if you know that your wife love you, conditionally, and I'm only talking about males on this tip. Conditionally based off your ability to provide. So the math, it's the math. She's not going to be unconditional with you. Why? Because your math ain't right. If stability is there, her good love is there. No stability, no loving. My boys used to always tell me, no romance without finance. You feel me? There is still remains true to this day, even though women have their own money on the flip side men will provide under Unconditional love but it will be under the provider protection principle meaning I'm only Going to love and protect and love on you and protect you under my umbrella. I can't love you from afar because you ain't under my umbrella. So you can't be outside doing everything with everybody and expect my protection as if I'm going to be the one to come to Captain Sable. Now, here's the funny part about it. As a whole, and this is something that I experienced, that's why I can speak on it comfortably and effectively. A lot of women would come to me with their problems, expecting me to fix them. They'll come to me with their positive triumphs, So I coined the phrase. this is in the Book of the Mind of the Zagreb Reviewer. Volume 1. Paying the Profits 2025 and Beyond. Which is, Don't come to me with your problems if you've never shared your positivity. And what does that mean really? So what that mean is, If you can't celebrate when things are going good with you, why you only want to come to me when things are going bad? Why? Cause I'm the stability. I'm the one that not allowed to basically, in the sense at the food and not, and that'd be respected because you haven't noticed that. And these are the different types of men and women that then that you only come to the people that you know, you can, that got it. Like auntie Shirley. Never married, but got all this money. You gonna come to them for some money. Why? Because you ran out of money, and now you in a dire need. But, if you predict, if you use the proper discipline of financial maturity, and saving a couple dollars for a rainy day, you wouldn't even need an auntie Shirley. So then, when you're doing well, you already talking to auntie Shirley hey girl, we whooping, we having fun. So if something went awry or went left, and you came to Aunty Shirley, guess what Aunty Shirley gonna say? Oh I understand, life happens, things gonna happen, and guess what? She's gonna support you or help you through in that time. Versus your friend Shaquita. Who's struggling just like you're struggling, but she got a little bit more cause her struggling ain't as big as your struggling. And y'all was at the party together, but y'all was trauma bonding. And trauma dubbing cause y'all was like, oh the man ain't shit, so to speak. He flips on the male side too. The males go through it, This is the mind is out of the blue. It's completely culturally and gender unbiased. We throw the shit at everybody. Because guess what? Your spirituality, your progress, your path to greatness is a universal principle. It's a God principle. That means that everyone can get it. Not just some, not just one, but all you motherfuckers. Cause why? What the Bible tells you is very simple. It says, the good, the rain fall on the unjust and the just. So guess what the Bible says? We're gonna kick it on all y'all. Ha! You're trying to bond with your queen and them. So when things go left, she's going to show up for you for a second, right? She's going to show up and be like, Hey, you cool. Alright, cool. I know shit done went left. Your house got burned down, your kid dead, and you only got one kid left and you got cancer. Alright, cool. After a while, she's going to look at you like, you ain't going to get it together? You ain't going to beat this cancer? You ain't going to start having more kids? You ain't going to get you a man? You ain't going to get the fuck on? Because you have outlived your welcome? Because she was never in a positive space in the first place. She was in a situational space. She's a part of the crew That loved on you From a distance but hit on you in your face So the matter is For every ten people six of them will tolerate you based off of the relationship You have which is either going to be situational Transactional, Circumstantial, Right? Six of them. So every ten people you meet, six of them is only going to want to have a relationship to you in that space. In the book, The Six Daily Habits, we go into detail of what those relationship, buckets are. Now, you're going to have two people that's just not going to fuck with you. That's the math. Then you're going to have two people that one person is going to just believe in you. That's going to be your support system. That literally does not have a condition on their support. They just support. You ever been around somebody that just buy whatever the fuck you selling and don't even give a fuck? You ever been around people that just buy whatever the fuck you got because you just don't give a fuck? There are men and women that are in your life that are just going to support you just because it's you. That's part of your 1%. Now here's the other 1%. The 1 percent that's going to fuck with you the long way. They're going to follow you no matter what. They're going to go wherever you go, however you go. Why does it work that way? Because that's the math. That's the way God made it. He made it, 60 20 20. 60 20 20. That's the principle. It's in the mind of this entrepreneur's book. Paying the profits. Learning and understanding the 60 20 20 principle will help you 1. Put people in the right perspective. It will also not help, not put you in a space where that you're Going to be mad when people show they ass. Cause behaviors don't lie no matter what they say out they mouth. Eww. See, but here's how you identify, another characteristic of how you want to identify the people that fucks with you. That's a part of your 1%. They're going to support you even when you're down and when you're up. Say I have a friend, nickname AMG. And we met at a conference. This is why I go to conference. You're not only going to conference for networking and connecting with like minded people. You also go to conference to meet your real friends, to meet the people that actually are equally yoked with you. Even the Bible talks about being in the equally yoked with people. You can't go around. So don't say, don't make it be just because you're in a different vibration that you're not equally yoked. When you were on that type of time, you was on that type of time. When you was in the streets, you was on that type of time. You ready? Everybody can get it. But there's a time where that you, there's a time of sowing, there's a time of reaping. Then there's what they call the gestations phase where that you just got to go through the motions and go through the process of maturing to a bountiful harvest. So if you are a street hustler or like me, exotic prenuer in the strip club street environment, there was a gestations page where that I had to just go through the motions to learn the game properly to learn the purple skills, the kinetic skills, not just my academic skills. Why? Because At this point, I had to start learning how to understand people for who they are, not who I think they're going to be, but then create a process because I was given that gift of operational intelligence. I'm great at operation. I'm great at great building process. Creating a process for them to now get on their path to greatness using this particular methodology and method, right? And if you want to learn what more about that You can get, you can get the, when you get the book, paying the profits, 2025 and, beyond, I'm gonna give you a free gift, which is, the marketing, my marketing associate workbook that'll help you, take you through a proven doesn't fail 'cause it is, is date, is the methods, principles, and, processes are dated. Before me, I was even born before when the war was, when the earth was just being formed. It was around. These are based off of God's principles, not mine, which means they're universal. Once you learn those principles, I guarantee no matter what walk of life, whatever world you're in, because I don't know who these gifts will fall on. Because, of course, my target demographic are the 2 percent of people that wants to transform their pains into profits and may have been into a physical or psychological purgatory and were looking for a way out. a process, a principle in where that I've been given the gift of light in darkness. And there are others like me that have this Sarah guilt. So I was given a gift to pass it on by sharing, by being a beacon of light in darkness and provided a platforms for people to get their positive reinforcement in the purgatory period. You feel me? Yes. All right. so when you're moving in those spaces and you're given that opportunity, now it's up to you to take the chance because there's always an opportunity in the darkness and there's going to always be haters just like they're always going to be supporters. Now, of course, you're going to have more. Haters didn't you have supporters, but that means you're doing something now What's happening is this your supporters are ultra financial supposal and emotional. They're not just financial Fellas and ladies do not mess this up because you think that the money was the what is the cause? You're gonna come across people that money cannot buy them Cuz if you come in my space, I don't give a fuck about it. I will earn my money by killing my own Killing what I feed myself because I'm exotic prenuer just like you or a traditional entrepreneur just like you I kill my own I kill my own food. so there's a principle in suffering and knowing thyself, right? There's a principle of knowing what you will go for and what you ain't gonna go for and you set that president walking in the door That's how they fear you because they only fear people that they cannot control. So the only way that you can now protect yourself is by becoming sovereign, becoming independent. And then developing the skill system, become intra dependent where that you are sure and confident and solid in your personal being. Yet, you could work with others that are sure and confident in their personal being in a collective, collaborative space. How did this happen for me? It worked for me because I was in the bar, but I ended up becoming a manager and then an operator, right? And I had to operate and operate. Oversee hundreds of people on a day to day basis where that you're dealing with a lot of top A, alpha, emotionally distressed people, especially the women who are mostly All over the fucking place. And I have to be able to communicate with them. Not control them. Communicate with them in a way with that they can make sound decisions based off of the criteria's and the criteria's that I said before. This is the part of being a man. Versus masculine energy. Now the masculine energy, the masculine part of his origin organization, structure, and logic, right? That's the masculine energy. Being a man is you're standing on that shit. Okay. You're standing on the principles of who, what you stand on, and then you created the environment for them to move freely based off their position. And when you're able to move freely, Based off their position that you provided for them with it. Then now they're moving. They're now can achieve their greatness by producing prosperity then you got a positive situation And this is where the Bible talks about and I love Does the parables of reaping the swine why because I can teach on this I can preach on this I can talk about this 24 7 because there is I believe there is no Greater, place of prosperous and progressive energy than the art of reaping and sowing. Investing in something, in it long enough to reap an harvest that will benefit you, but then have such a bountiful harvest where you will now have an overflow to share with more than yourself. And others around it. And that is the core, principle. Of the mind of this entrepreneur and what was my guys given charge to do so I pray that you gain the some insight on the things of Discovering the people that are around you that are for you and the ones that are against you but not being mad at them But just understanding where to put them and being able to now decipher Though and protect your energy by preserving your peace so that your path the greatness is a prosperous one And I pray that you are as we always say Stay healthy, make sure you like and subscribe and be wealthy. Don P out. And if you'd like any fragrance, go ahead and go to DonaldPreston. com and go ahead and check out what we've got to offer. I believe there's a tons of stuff in there that will serve you, help you and, encourage you on your path to greatness. Stay healthy. Let us all become well. Don P out. This is a little punch in for the 60 60, 60 60, 60 20 20 principle. And the part where that, the part where that people start acting funny towards you. And they start being, shitty. Trying to sabotage you, start to riot you, and nickel and dime you, and be competitive with you. Psychologically, because they feel used. See, they like you, they love you when you're down and hate you when you're up. And when you come, in their mind, they feel like you came up off them. Because without them, you wouldn't have been able to get better. That's the key indicator that they were a part of your 6, not your 20 or your They're a party of six, not your positive twenty. They fuck with you, but they don't fuck with you. And subconsciously, it annoyed them. Cause they really wanted you to be down, so they could use you. And manipulate you. And then control you or dominate you. And this is running rampant. It ran rampant in the exotic world. From both sides. If you was a male performer or a female performer. Domination and control is in the name of the game. And throughout the world. But in this space, it became a very potentially, disruptive space, due to the nature of it. And to be honest, the only people that really want absolute domination and control is to cover it. They want you to be as co dependent on them as possible without being dependent on them. this is the definition of democracy versus, communism. Capitalism vs. Communism is literally a direct connection to that ideology. Cause they both operate in the same space but in different functions. Back to the story. Alright, back to the show.